Change is hard.
We have become a fast-paced culture with high expectations and little patience.
With so much literally at our fingertips, we are, biologically, losing the ability wait and seek perspective.
We are also overwhelmed with choices which makes it difficult to make and feel sure of our decisions.
Change is hard.
It's even harder when it is not the change we chose or envisioned.
The clients I work with who are struggling with change say they feel lost, depressed/anxious, the life they are living isn't the one they wanted or recognize, and they don't know where to go from here. They may even feel they don't know who they are anymore.
Out in the blogosphere, there is a lot of self-righteous chatter about millennial lack of resiliency around change and challenge. I don't subscribe to this line of thinking and I don't think it is fair or helpful. If an adult can't handle failure or adapt to change, it's because as a child s/he did not have experiences that supported him/her in learning to safely recover from failure or change. It is not only millennials who are struggling.
I do think that we live in a world where it is increasingly difficult to adapt because real connection, pause, perspective, and patience is increasingly hard to experience. In a recessed economy, identity, competence, personal agency is constantly challenged. In a social media world, our insecurities are constantly poked and cajoled. Reality isn't real.
Whatever the change, it is important to pause and consider how to choose resiliency.
Change is hard. But, it doesn't have to be. If we can meet it with courage and openness, it can also be thrilling and growthful. Be gentle with yourself.
Karen J. Helfrich, LCSW-C
As a therapist, mother, daughter, partner, and seeker, I am always on the journey toward a more peaceful, authentic life. I hope to share knowledge, insights, and the ongoing unknowns I find along the path...