Autumn is just my favorite time of year. Except for summer. I also love summer. And spring, too. Well, and winter when it snows. Otherwise, I'm not much of a fan of winter. But, ah, Fall! Sweaters and hot tea. Pumpkins, falling leaves, hayrides, costumes, turkey, decorations, lights, and gifts….and cards, shopping, events, commitments, obligations, and expectations and too many things and not enough time…. Ungh. The stress of it all. Then, there are the many people for whom this time of year includes painful memories, reminders of estrangements, and disappointment. How can we capture the joy of the season in the face of all of this stress?
First of all, I believe in the magic of Autumn and the Winter Holidays. This magic is there for all ages, for anyone who wants it, no matter what. I want to invite you to embark on a different journey through Autumn. While the world spins, races, and demands around us, we can sink into a deeper space within and encounter stillness. From this stillness, we can choose to create this moment and the next. This work is not always easy, but it is simple and kind to us and those around us.
The magic lies within us.
This Autumn Journey is not about perfect experiences, creating perfect memories, or perfect anything. Sinking within, first notice the energy of expectation. Its pressure driving and relentless. Whirling, electric, condemning.
What would it be like, just for this moment, to release the expectation that what happens next be…anything in particular. Breathe into this release.
Notice the Yeahbut. Yeahbut is the mind chiming in with dire warning of what will happen if we let go of Perfect, let go of Expectation. We can meet Yeahbut with Is-it-really-true? And Sowhat!
We might encounter fear, a rising plume of fiery panic. Yeahbut can be a determined foe, but breathe….
Meet fear with gentle kindness and soft intention. It's ok. It's ok to just be, just right now. It's ok to let go, to not do, to do less, to show up as-is. Return to the magical joy within. Smell the autumn scent of leaves, listen to their rustling, hear the laughter of children. Return to the magical joy within. Be the magic you thought to create in hurried perfection. Slow down. Do the next thing that brings you joy. Release the thing that sets a heavy burden.
And when I don't have time for a deep pause, that's when I ask myself:
Is doing this next thing bringing me joy, or making me a crazy witch?
Crazy witch? Honey, let that thing go….
As a therapist, mother, daughter, partner, and seeker, I am always on the journey toward a more peaceful, authentic life. I hope to share knowledge, insights, and the ongoing unknowns I find along the path...